FIGHTING

Ever find yourself throwing hurtful words (or even heavy objects) at the one you supposedly love?

I was sharing advice with someone on the East Coast in this situation after she’d gone into the red zone (again) & I’m posting it here in case it can also help others...

Often, women date men they consider flawed, a diamond in the rough. This allows her to love him when he does what she wants, yet belittle him when he strays from her ideal. This way, if he ever leaves, she can believe he wasn’t “The One”, didn’t deserve her, was beneath her. Or, if it works out, she can take pride in believing she changed him or she brings out the best in him. Really, this is all a coping mechanism created by the ego, typically of a woman who has been hurt & left by a former love. Her walls are up. She can never truly believe a worthy man loves her. UNTIL... she learns to love herself. Fact is, we’re all flawed, yet we each deserve love. It helps to start with yourself and grow from there. I enjoy helping women develop their self-love

*sculpture by Ukrainian artist Alexander Milov, photo credit unknown